​God, I'm incapable of loving my mate. I admit that. She's a feeler; I'm a thinker. She's patient; I'm not. She looks for the best in everyone. I try, but fail more than I succeed. And...most obviously, she's a woman. I'm not. I need supernatural help! But of course, You know that. I'm thankful that none of these deficiencies render me incapable of learning how to love. On the contrary, they create ever-present opportunities for improvement. Long ago I learned that understand

Hi, my name is Gary and I'm a recovering perfectionist! For years I lived under the thumb of self-imposed guilt, needless anxiety, unnecessary pressure, and lots of compulsions that drain the joy out of living. I used to be like Karen...a chronic perfectionist---wife, mother, civic leader; an ideal role model for lots of women. Her house was spotless, her kids were spotless, and her leadership skills were superb. In every area of her life she was in charge...always out fro

Seems like everyone these days is in a hurry, on the move, "going for it," etc. Being busy seems to be a bit of a status symbol, a claim to self-worth. I have a theory that most of us run past more than we catch up with. Certainly life is fraught with pressures and challenges, but where did we get the idea that our identity equals our pace? I've learned that It takes a lot of slow...to grow. But beyond that, it requires more discipline and delivers better results. Here are

Someone asked me recently, "How can I have a "perfect relationship" with my significant other?" What would you say? I wrote down some initial thoughts, in no particular order. 1. Lay aside the whole idea of perfection. It's a pipe dream. People aren't perfect, thus relationships never will be. That's reality. Accept it. Love is sometimes sweet; but more often it's sweat. 2. Learn what your partner's needs are and make it your mission to meet them. This is harder than you thi