It seems to me these days that everyone believes they have to make a choice with regard to just about everything. "Take a position, have a voice, make a stand, be a person with convictions." I'm not so sure. I believe it's sometimes wiser to choose not to choose.

I don't have an opinion about something because other people tell me I have to; I have opinions simply because sometimes it's helpful to have them; helpful for me, and occasionally helpful for others. When I express an opinion, it's not because I have to, but because I think it might possibly provide some value in someone's life.

Dialogue doesn't happen because two people shout back and forth. Talking AT people doesn't equate to talking with people. This is true of all meaningful relationships. Isaiah 53:7 says that "He was oppressed and he was afflicted, yet he opened not his mouth." Luke 23:9 says "...they questioned him at some length, but he made no answer." Have you learned the wisdom of "making no answer?" Or have you been duped into believing that you "must have a voice?"

It's popular these days to "find your voice." Maybe it's wiser to speak when it's time to speak and listen when it's time to listen, and do both out of love and grace. Our culture today has pretty much voted unanimously in favor of speaking "whatever" and "whenever." We think it's okay because everyone else does it. But embracing "herd mentality" conversation is a nonproductive way to live; it's also exhausting.

Friends, we don't have to have an opinion about everything. We don't have to be everyone else's mother, nor their personal Holy Spirit. Better to have a measured response that flows out of a measured mind. It is said of Jesus that "...they remembered his words." (Luke 24:8) Part of the reason for that is that he chose them carefully and expressed them at just the right time. Once he simply said, "Let your 'yes' be yes and your 'no' be no." (Mt. 5:37).

You don't have to fight every battle, friend; you don't have to win every argument, and you certainly don't have to have a position on every issue. Sometimes it's more productive to choose NOT to choose.

How about it? Yes, or No? Guess what? You don't have to answer.

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